Do you feel disconnected, misunderstood, or unheard by your partner?

You wonder: Is it this ADHD relationship thing, or are we just incompatible?

You know you might need help, but with so many therapists, coaches, and programs out there …
It’s hard to know where to go, or what might work.

These are some of the most frequent problems we’ve heard from ADHD couples. Do any of these sound familiar?

  • ADHD symptoms seem to make life more and more challenging.
  • It seems like you’re arguing all the time.
  • You can’t seem to sit down and have a calm, heart-to-heart conversation.
  • One of you feels like you’re taking on more than your fair share, and so many things still don’t get done.
  • You wonder, “Who’s fault is it that we just can’t seem to get along?”
  • The distance between the two of you gets further and further apart.
  • You ask yourself, “How long can I go on living like this?”
  • You also wonder, “Will it ever get better?”
  • This impasse has an effect on the whole family.

We can certainly relate.

Years ago, in our marriage, we blamed each other for our problems.
We each thought the other was wrong. Accusations flew.
Our intimacy was gone.
We tried everything. Nothing seemed to work.

We were able to turn all that around. Today, we’re great together.

We want to show you how to have a wonderful outcome too.

How do you choose what to do next?

We support you to:

Learn & practice the skills that can help you fix your ADHD relationship:

  • Manage ADHD symptoms.
  • Implement strategies that will help end the arguments.
  • Have calm, meaningful conversations with your partner.
  • Know that you can truly be heard.
  • Share responsibilities.
  • Make things better for everyone in the family.
  • Get tools and techniques that move you beyond the impasse.


We are offering, for a limited time, an opportunity to help you with two amazing gifts:

  • A FREE and newly created eBook, written by the Internationally known author and ADHD Couples expert, Nancie Kohlenberger (The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD) entitled, The 5 Top Challenges of the ADHD Relationship and How to Fix Them.
  • The second and more valuable gift is a FREE ADHD Couples consulting conversation with Nancie and Steve Kohlenberger.

About Us

We are Steve & Nancie Kohlenberger

A number of years ago, we went through some pretty hard times ourselves.  We knew we both had ADHD, and our marriage was pretty rocky.  Making changes was critical, or we would end up breaking apart. We were not in good shape as a couple.

Earlier, through our grad school training, we both gained a background in psychology. To move beyond our difficulties, it became important to utilize the excellent skills we had learned.

When we recognized the major role ADHD was playing in our lives, we knew we had some homework to do. We read as many books and articles as we could get our hands on. (Some of these are listed on our Resources page). We found that there was much to learn about how ADHD was affecting our marriage. This was just one of the steps we took in our healing process.

To be sure we were on the right medications, we worked with a doctor who understood ADHD. For us, this was a very important step, which we realize does not work for everyone. In our situation, it made a big difference.

With our counseling skills, and a bit of outside help, we recognized that continuing to build a life together was more important than the differences that had torn us apart.

In getting to the other side of all of all the upset and pain, we became truly inspired to help couples with similar challenges. Couples like you!

We are passionate about what we do, and often work together, which, for us, has been an added bonus.

We share with you skills and techniques we have discovered.

Some of the outcomes regularly reported by our clients include:

  • Significant improvements in ADHD management.
  • Getting past anger and raised voices.
  • Enhanced communication skills.
  • Restored connection.
  • Greater loving and more fun.

We’d like to take all of the training we’ve had, all the exploration we’ve done, all the healing we’ve attained, and our experience working with couples, and put it to good use in our work with you.

Nancie and Steve would like to offer you a FREE, ZERO obligation, 20-minute Couple’s Coaching session so that you can get a sense of who we are, and how we can help you.

Call Nancie at +1 (949) 922-8548, or Steve at +1 (949) 288-3459.